Who’s responsible for the current situation in Australia? And let’s be clear on this, the question isn’t who is at fault, but rather who is prepared to be responsible?
In our “hand-up world” it seems to me that we all have very good reasons why nothing is our fault any more. Every day there is another current affairs story where somebody bemoans the fact that it is their teacher’s fault they didn’t finish school, their parents’ fault that they are socially maladjusted or the government’s fault that they can’t get a job. Unfortunately, when framed from that position of disempowerment, such problems look incredibly difficult to overcome if not insoluble don’t they? If fault lies in the past, with somebody else, then how can we possibly be expected to correct it?
But fault and responsibility are different things aren’t they? We all stand on the shoulders of those who have gone before us and on that basis we now enjoy all the benefits of a free, democratic society, for which we are openly proud and grateful. But on the flip side, are we also prepared to take responsibility for the mistakes our great-grandfathers made, and had to make, to learn the importance of those values and to achieve them for our benefit? It is a far less comfortable place isn’t it?
On an intellectual level we all know that every nation has had its dark hours. We have all been both the oppressed and the oppressors, with the only successful case of genocide in the world hiding in our own history books. Modern psychological research has also helped us to understand that every generation is a product of the fears and prejudices passed on to them from the suffering of their own parents, and on that basis those same experts suggest that if you or I were a child of those parents, we would probably also be prepared to take radical steps that are arguably wrong, to please our “God” and our families as retribution for the suffering our parents sustained.
If we continue to resist responsibility because we eschew the idea of fault – who are we expecting to address the problems of our current world? Our children are clearly going to inherit them – but what are we doing to make it more likely that they will be equipped to actually face them and not repeat our mistakes?
In October, MeWise will be trialling a peer mediation program for primary and junior high school students in Bhutan. In mediation, young people learn the importance of taking responsibility for their problems in order to solve them, and how to work with their peers to generate options for the future, without an authority figure telling them what to do.
This October visit to Bhutan is the first official pro bono venture for MeWise, and the peer mediation program and teaching resources have been designed at the request of these gentle, Buddhist people because they understand the importance of including compassion and collaborative problem solving skills in the formal education of their future generations.
What are we doing?
The Case for MeWise Peer Mediation Programs in our own Schools….
At the primary and junior high school levels, peer mediation is a process that can
leave participants feeling satisfied and respected whilst resolving conflicts. As they
develop the language and communication skills needed for successful mediation,
students learn to take responsibility for their problems, listen to each other and
consider other’s viewpoints and perspectives. They find themselves able to move
from anger to a search for solutions, and they develop a collaborative approach to
problem solving that they can take with them into higher education and the wider
Community. The facilitative mediation process (where the mediator doesn’t judge or
advise but rather helps the participants to come up with their own solutions) also
encourages students to appreciate the level of responsibility inherent in self
determination, autonomy and personal freedom.
For All Students:
For Student Mediators:
I created the original version of this program for the state primary school my children were attending in the early 90’s and it has operated successfully in that context ever since. I am thinking that now is the time to promote it commercially. Please let me know if your school is interested – I have a long list of pro bono work I’d love to do but as my husband reminds me – I have to generate some income first!